It happened before in every culture that embraces nonbinary identities as something to be acknowledged—but, slowly, we remember our heritage as our spirits wake. And it happens now as our sisthren, brethren, and sibthren come into their identities and walk their truths. At the same time, they—we—live lives like the other people, like those people who do so dislike being called what they are—the cisgender.
And it is with the cisgender that I take my current beef.
(Any comments to the effects of "not all cis" are subject to a metric buttload of side-eye. Only warning.)
It should be no one's business what is in anyone's trousers/kilt/skirt/long dashiki except their significant other and the owner of the parts, yet a mob of legislators wants to control where people can go to the bathroom or change clothes at the gym based on this. Were we to subject the cisgender populations to this treatment it would be called invasive harassment and overturned so quickly that your head would spin.
But since it's "for their protection," this is fine. The double standard is disgusting. It makes me furious. And more than a little sick.
It has also brought back the old chestnut that equates gender to genitalia, and I'm seeing more and more talk about how people would immediately drop a partner—even a long time partner—if their genitals didn't match the perceived or presenting gender. No other justification is even given, just "I thought you had X" and "bye, Felicia."
This revelation makes me sick. Just plain sick. And I don't understand how this line of thinking could be interpreted as anything but transphobic. Putting my cards on the table as nonbinary gets the same reaction. And the reaction is always the same:
"Never mind. Thought you was a woman" and a fast walk away with much dusting of shoulders.
Determining partners on plumbing exclusively is fetishist at best, phobic bull at worst, and needs to stop.
People forget: we are whole persons, with minds and lives and interests and hobbies. Not just sets of genitalia for you to fixate on.